Tuesday, December 11, 2012

How to be happy and positive

Be positive, be happy. Don't we all want the same? To keep our happiness or to gain it? Well obviously nobody is happy all the time. But still we have individuals that are generally more happy than others. Why is that? Study shows that happiness is in no way related to your material wealth. It's all in your view of life. In this post I will show you what are the factors in your life you should maintain in order to gain control over your mood.

This post is inspired by Shawn Achor, a psychologist. Shawn Achor is the CEO of Good Think Inc., where he researches and teaches about positive psychology. So yes, this info is quite valuable and you should read this.

You can view his talk here:

In his talk he mentions 5 things you should do to maintain your well being. I had a listen to it and just knew these information are not getting out of my hand so quickly, and I will not permit that you, my dear readers, be put out of it. So here we go.

1. Exercise of three gratitudes

  • This may sound confusing in the beginning but it's actually quite simple.
  • To be successful in this exercise and gain the positive outlook in life you are searching for you will first need to find yourself a notebook and a pen or whatever you use to write (I honestly don't know why do I think about these things, just write with something)
  • Each day you will write down 3 things you're grateful for. You may be happy because you got a message from somebody, you school or job finished earlier or you're happy just because you've survived another day.
  • After 21 days of writing gratitudes each day you will notice your pattern of thinking will change. Instead of looking for negative outcomes, you will look for the positive ones. You wouldn't believe how powerful this is!

2. Journaling

  • Again with the notebook and a pen (or whatever, damn).
  • After each day right before bed write down a short story about your favorite positive experience that day.
  • This way you learn to value moments more and will in time get you in a very positive state, a positive state before bed means a whole lot, so you better get to it.

3. Exercise

  • Let alone endorphines and that feeling of fulfillment after an exercise, exercise is good in teaching you another very valuable thing.
  • While you exercise you will learn how important your mood is. Think about it, when you feel sad or down your performance in the gym is on the lowest, and when you're happy and satisfied you feel like an athlete.
  • This one is simple. Just stay fit and you will be a happier person.

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4. Meditation

  • Cultural ADHD. Doing multiple things at once or multitasking. These all have a weight on your mood and sometimes you just get tired out and you can't focus on anything but going to bed.
  • This is where meditation comes in. Using meditation frequently gets you in a more relaxed state of mind and gets your mind more clearer and focused on the important things in life.
  • Each day just before going to bed and doing your gratitudes and journaling take 5 minutes to breathe deeply and let your mind free.

5. Conscious acts of kindness

  • Be kind and giving. If somebody does something for you, thank him with your heart, not because you have to.
  • You can exercise this by performing conscious acts of kindness. This means that each day you should thank someone just for being there, for doing something that they're good at, for doing you a favor, anything. You need to show you value others and not only yourself.

“[It’s] the lens through which your brain views the world that shapes your reality. And if we can change the lens, not only can we change your happiness, we can change every single educational and business outcome at the same time.”
Shawn Achor

That's it! I hope you like my post and if you do I seriously advise you to comment, share, like, tweet and subscribe to my blog to keep me going and provide even better posts!

Question for readers:
On a scale of 1 to 5, how happy are you?

Leave a comment below. 


  1. may be 3.. I'm going to try these steps :)

  2. I think I need more numbers, like from 1 to 100, anyway it is a hard work, don´t you think?

    1. Of course it's hard work, it's life. And life is hard sometimes, but it pays off!

  3. TED sure know what they are talking about :)

  4. Keep moving forward in lfe and never look back... I

  5. this helped me a lot dude, thanks

    1. This is awesome I will try this, I need to reset my mind. Thank you!

  6. This is fantastic, thank you for sharing!

  7. A scientific study proved that making yourself smile can actually make you happy.


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