|Loneliness is one of the most frequent reasons for being depressed or even committing suicide.|
So you are feeling lonely? First of all you need to know how lonely do you really feel. Lonely people that are desperate about their situation are maybe considering suicide. Are you in such position? Or would you honestly just liked if you had more friends or intimate relationships? If you do not find yourself in the first description you can be glad just by reading this, you can be glad that you are not in the most unfortunate few. If you think suicide is an option stop right there, because I am going to help you help yourself.
So here I am reading these quotes I found on some page where they quote people that are feeling lonely. They go like this:
"I wish I'd get good morning texts sometimes, to feel like I'm important to someone..."
"It's not easy setting yourself free from someone you once cared so much about. "
"I dont know what to do, I dont know what to say, its tuff being alone, every freakin day."
"Those nights when you just break down, realizing how lonely you are, and that nobody cares."
It's funny how something simple as socializing can become a problem in today's society. It is true we are becoming more and more apart from each other every day not by our fault but mainly because it's the way things are today. That is the main reason we need to learn to live with it, that even means being on your own and still be satisfied about yourself if it has come to that. Not because you've given up from the world, but because you decided to give it a chance. So there it is, your first step, acceptance of yourself and loving yourself. With your first step comes allowance of other people to enter your life. Let's divide the process into steps and possible options then. Here we go:
1. Acceptance and love towards yourself
Do you love yourself? Do you take good care of your life and cherish it daily, knowing what are your values and the things you're good at? No?
If the answer is no then this is your first problem why you can't make any good relationships with people. You need to love yourself so you could love others. It's not easy I know, but it's the way things go, and you need to find a way to explain to yourself just exactly how much are you really worth. Remember, you are not what others think!
Try to sit down, calm yourself and think of a situation in witch you felt good about yourself, a situation in witch you decided to do something good and succeeded. There must be something you're good at, it's just that you tend to focus on the bad things. This is your first step, you need to learn to value yourself because people love confidence.
If you're having more troubles about self acceptance and overall happiness then I can recommend these two articles:
2. Sharing your emotions and experiences with other people
Right after accepting yourself and just when you think you're able to talk the right way (fear of commitment is gone) to somebody it's time for you to open up to people.
Sharing your thoughts of the world, your day at work or a simple bad day with your colleague can be very alleviating and will get you out of your loneliness cycle. Not only that but this is the best way to strengthen relationships between people. Some study even showed that the more one person knows about you the more they like you (or the other way around).
If you are a student and can't find time for socializing try studying with someone else. It may be a good idea to become a part of a group or project. Go ahead and volunteer somewhere if you have time besides your day job. It may be a great opportunity to get your mind off the feeling of loneliness and you may meet someone new.
Exercise is one of the best things you can do when you feel lonely. It replaces your feeling of loneliness with the feeling of acceptance of yourself and motivates you to continue being even better. How great is that?
It also gets you to learn the importance of your feelings and how do they affect your exercising performance.
Face it - exercise is not only good for the body, but for the brain (soul) also! It can actually be chemically explained as a certain hormone called endorphin (happiness hormone) is released while exercising.
This may come off as a diversion from the topic but it really isn't. How many times have you been depressed and found yourself watching an old movie from your childhood, or looking at old pictures? It happened a few times didn't it?
When you really feel bad this is actually not a bad escape that will remind you how good of a person you were and how great you still are!
5. Being in a relationship
In a good and stable relationship the feeling of loneliness disappears completely or almost completely. This is because all of your aspects of life are shared with your loved one, and you do not feel alone because there is the two of you, not only you.
Relationships and getting involved in a relationship are the most effective way of fighting loneliness, but also the negative side of the story is that you cannot control when it happens and when it ends.
6. Buying a pet
It couldn't be more obvious than this. This is by far one of the most simple, yet effective solutions to your problems. Animals are beings that can love you more than you love yourself, and that's just what you need.
They need love too just like you do, so why not try having a pet on your own?
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