Wednesday, January 9, 2013

Feeling Lonely? Learn To Fight Back!

Hello dear readers and welcome to another post about loneliness. The internet is full of information about it and yet many suffer from it. One day you're feeling great, you're with your friends, everything seems fine, and the other day you're back from work, you have nowhere to go and you're stuck home and it feels like there's nobody that can change the situation. What do you do? You feel lonely and sometimes even depressed. It's time to fight back - learn to control yourself and stay happy! I have decided that I should share my knowledge of this subject and to help those in need to get back on their feet, or to perfect their lives even more.


Loneliness is one of the most frequent reasons for being depressed or even committing suicide.





So you are feeling lonely? First of all you need to know how lonely do you really feel. Lonely people that are desperate about their situation are maybe considering suicide. Are you in such position? Or would you honestly just liked if you had more friends or intimate relationships? If you do not find yourself in the first description you can be glad just by reading this, you can be glad that you are not in the most unfortunate few. If you think suicide is an option stop right there, because I am going to help you help yourself.

So here I am reading these quotes I found on some page where they quote people that are feeling lonely. They go like this:


"I wish I'd get good morning texts sometimes, to feel like I'm important to someone..."

"It's not easy setting yourself free from someone you once cared so much about. "

"I dont know what to do, I dont know what to say, its tuff being alone, every freakin day."


"Those nights when you just break down, realizing how lonely you are, and that nobody cares."

...


It's funny how something simple as socializing can become a problem in today's society. It is true we are becoming more and more apart from each other every day not by our fault but mainly because it's the way things are today. That is the main reason we need to learn to live with it, that even means being on your own and still be satisfied about yourself if it has come to that. Not because you've given up from the world, but because you decided to give it a chance. So there it is, your first step, acceptance of yourself and loving yourself. With your first step comes allowance of other people to enter your life. Let's divide the process into steps and possible options then. Here we go:


1. Acceptance and love towards yourself

Do you love yourself? Do you take good care of your life and cherish it daily, knowing what are your values and the things you're good at? No?

If the answer is no then this is your first problem why you can't make any good relationships with people. You need to love yourself so you could love others. It's not easy I know, but it's the way things go, and you need to find a way to explain to yourself just exactly how much are you really worth. Remember, you are not what others think!

Try to sit down, calm yourself and think of a situation in witch you felt good about yourself, a situation in witch you decided to do something good and succeeded. There must be something you're good at, it's just that you tend to focus on the bad things. This is your first step, you need to learn to value yourself because people love confidence.

If you're having more troubles about self acceptance and overall happiness then I can recommend these two articles:




2. Sharing your emotions and experiences with other people

Right after accepting yourself and just when you think you're able to talk the right way (fear of commitment is gone) to somebody it's time for you to open up to people.

Sharing your thoughts of the world, your day at work or a simple bad day with your colleague can be very alleviating and will get you out of your loneliness cycle. Not only that but this is the best way to strengthen relationships between people. Some study even showed that the more one person knows about you the more they like you (or the other way around).

If you are a student and can't find time for socializing try studying with someone else. It may be a good idea to become a part of a group or project. Go ahead and volunteer somewhere if you have time besides your day job. It may be a great opportunity to get your mind off the feeling of loneliness and you may meet someone new.


3. Exercise

Exercise is one of the best things you can do when you feel lonely. It replaces your feeling of loneliness with the feeling of acceptance of yourself and motivates you to continue being even better. How great is that?

It also gets you to learn the importance of your feelings and how do they affect your exercising performance. 

Face it - exercise is not only good for the body, but for the brain (soul) also! It can actually be chemically explained as a certain hormone called endorphin (happiness hormone) is released while exercising.


4. Nostalgia

This may come off as a diversion from the topic but it really isn't. How many times have you been depressed and found yourself watching an old movie from your childhood, or looking at old pictures? It happened a few times didn't it?

When you really feel bad this is actually not a bad escape that will remind you how good of a person you were and how great you still are!


5. Being in a relationship

In a good and stable relationship the feeling of loneliness disappears completely or almost completely. This is because all of your aspects of life are shared with your loved one, and you do not feel alone because there is the two of you, not only you.

Relationships and getting involved in a relationship are the most effective way of fighting loneliness, but also the negative side of the story is that you cannot control when it happens and when it ends.


6. Buying a pet

It couldn't be more obvious than this. This is by far one of the most simple, yet effective solutions to your problems. Animals are beings that can love you more than you love yourself, and that's just what you need.

They need love too just like you do, so why not try having a pet on your own?





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How often do you feel lonely? Let me know in the comments below.

6 comments:

  1. Pretty much every day for as long as I can remember.

    Some days it's bearable, but days like today make me dread getting up in the morning. Asking myself questions like: "Will this be the day I finally end this worthless existence?", "How can I honestly expect to others to want to be around me when I don't want to be around myself?"

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    1. I advise you to read the post mentioned in the 1st step. Realistically it can't be that bad even if you tried. All that you think is bad is in your head, so put some effort to change the way you think, not the way you look or do things!

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  2. its not that easy to do this .!:(
    just feeling alone the every single minute.!
    bt this also didnt helped..!

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  3. Hi
    I read your blog n the ideas you mentioned..seems you hv learnt alot in life ... the blog was very interesting yet informational. It will definately help people who want to combat loneliness...
    I just want to add a little point that loneliness is just a state of mind n nothing else...it on you if you let your mind wonder on negative things it will multiply you negative thought faster then the speed of light.

    Also wen anyone feels lonely they should just close their eyes n imagine the face of their parents or family who no matter wat hv olways been with us....

    Person should make his or her loneliness their strength instead of weekness. As we all long for alone time with our ownselves.

    Just dance out you loneliness n enjoy life...no one is anyway goin to last here...

    Remember its olways between u n god... we hv to go to him ALONE at d end....

    Close the thinking process of mind wen u start feeling alone.

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  4. Hi
    I read your blog n the ideas you mentioned..seems you hv learnt alot in life ... the blog was very interesting yet informational. It will definately help people who want to combat loneliness...
    I just want to add a little point that loneliness is just a state of mind n nothing else...it on you if you let your mind wonder on negative things it will multiply you negative thought faster then the speed of light.

    Also wen anyone feels lonely they should just close their eyes n imagine the face of their parents or family who no matter wat hv olways been with us....

    Person should make his or her loneliness their strength instead of weekness. As we all long for alone time with our ownselves.

    Just dance out you loneliness n enjoy life...no one is anyway goin to last here...

    Remember its olways between u n god... we hv to go to him ALONE at d end....

    Close the thinking process of mind wen u start feeling alone.

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  5. I know its hard to accept that you are lonely. But try to be happy by making yourself laugh learn the fact that not all your beastfriend is there for you, try to be yourself learn how to be YOURSELF.

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